Meet Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, The Gay Love Coach, who has over 18 years experience as a psychotherapist and life coach specializing in helping GLBT individuals and couples develop and maintain successful and fulfilling intimate relationships.
What is your definition of a relationship coach?
When an individual or a couple desires support, guidance, and accountability toward defining and achieving their relationship goals and dreams, they seek out the services of a relationship coach. Together, they partner as a team to collaborate on how they can reach their potential in their dating lives and relationships through defining a vision, developing goals, overcoming barriers, learning new skills, and building their “muscles” to cultivate and ultimately live their ideal, healthy, powerful, fulfilling life and relationship.
How is relationship coaching different than other types of coaching?
As humans, we have a strong need for attachment and bonding. But the divorce statistics indicate a significant disconnect in the ability for many couples to sustain that intimacy over the long haul. Thank goodness for relationship coaching! This form of coaching helps to promote the success of long-term relationships through needed education and support. This specialized type of coaching targets one of the most important aspects of life that can make us feel fulfilled and passionate—love and relationships—and teaches us how to be successful at it!
Why did you become a relationship coach?
As a therapist, I see people every day struggling with relationship issues and see the need for more focus in this area. That being said, as a gay man “coming out” to myself in the 90’s (oh boy am I dating myself!), I felt completely lost with how to navigate the dating waters of the gay community. While relationship material abounds for heterosexual men and women, very few resources exist for the gay community on how to establish and build healthy intimate relationships with each other. So after getting myself in “tip-top” shape and gaining some additional training (in addition to my master’s degree in social work, I also have licensure as a relationship coach and obtained a doctorate degree in human sexuality), I decided to launch my own relationship coaching practice to help fill the void that is present for gay men by offering education and services to meet the unique needs that our community has pertaining to dating, relationships, and sexuality. And it’s been a raging passion of mine ever since to help teach and support the development of fulfilling intimate partnerships among gay men and women. Love what I do!
What is unique about your coaching practice?
One of the contributions that I’ve made that makes me feel proud is having helped to make a “splash” by putting love coaching on the map specifically for gay men. Helping to pioneer this new field with other professionals has been very rewarding and it’s still quite new and in its infancy. More and more are beginning to join the ranks of gay love coaching and it’s extremely satisfying to help make a difference in the lives of the community that I’m proud to be a part of. My practice offers individual and couples coaching sessions over the telephone on an international basis, I offer various groups and classes throughout the year on various topics related to gay dating, relationships, and sex, and provide workshops and presentations across the country as well. I also offer a free monthly newsletter on my website that’s chock-full of relationship and sex tips. My mission to get the message out about affirmative gay relationships is the driving force that motivates me forward and I’ve been very fortunate to yield media attention and offer my insights and message through print and online media publications.
Who is your ideal client?
I work with gay men who are ready to create a road map that will lead them to find and build a lasting partnership with Mr. Right.
I work predominantly with gay men, but I also partner with motivated people of all sexual orientations and genders to help maximize their success in relationships. Whether they are single or coupled, I love working with enthusiastic clients who are empowered to give their love-lives a boost and who want to collaborate on creating an action plan that will help them reach their goals.
When is it time for a person to start seeing a relationship coach?
At birth! LOL! Our society does not train or prepare us for the work and challenges involved in cultivating and maintaining long-term healthy relationships. We go to school and learn all about the various academics that will help us succeed intellectually and in our careers, but there is very little emphasis, if any, on how to date and relate with significant others. This is where a relationship coach can come in handy! Whether you’re struggling with a real-time relationship issue or just want to learn how to be the most fabulous partner you can be for personal growth and enrichment, relationship coaching can benefit anyone at any stage of development to learn how to succeed in this very critical and important part of life.
About Dr. Brian Rzepczynski
Dr. Brian Rzepczynski holds a doctorate degree in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality and a master’s degree in Social Work from Western Michigan University. He’s also a Certified Personal Life Coach through The Coach Training Alliance and a licensed Relationship Coach through the Relationship Coaching Institute. He launched his private coaching practice, The Gay Love Coach: Man 4 Man Coaching Services in 2003 and works with gay men, both singles and couples, on developing skills for improving fulfillment in their dating lives,relationships, and sexuality. He publishes a free monthly ezine called “The Man 4 Man Plan” that has helpful articles, tips, resources, and an advice column relating to gay relationships and dating. He is also the co-author of the 2005 self-help book “A Guide to Getting It: Purpose & Passion” and is frequently interviewed for articles in “The Chicago Tribune” and “MSN.com”. To sign up for your free monthly newsletter filled with tips and strategies for boosting your love-life, go to http://www.thegaylovecoach.com.