How to Recover from an Argument
Communication can be difficult, and no matter how close you are to your loved ones, there are sure to be some misunderstandings along the way. Fortunately, these arguments don’t have to be the end of your relationship. When you learn to communicate clearly after an argument, you can help put your relationship back on track.
Avoid Making It Worse
When you are in the heat of an argument, it can be very tempting to say things that you know will hurt your loved one. You may want to place blame, make accusations or give your loved one the silent treatment, but these actions will cause the rift between you to grow and could possibly lead to the end of the relationship. No matter how angry you get, you should avoid saying hurtful things to your friend or family member so that you don’t make the situation worse.
Analyze the Discussion
After the argument has occurred, it is time for the two of you to piece together what happened. You should sit down and analyze how you felt, what you said and what you thought during the argument, and your loved one should do the same. Then the two of you can fully explain your role in the argument without criticizing or hurting each other.
Once you have both calmed down and evaluated the argument, you should make a plan for how to prevent that particular mishap from happening again. You can work together to form strategies that will keep the two of you out of the situation that originally caused the argument. If the fight with your spouse was about your late night at a friend’s house, then you may offer to call your spouse periodically throughout the evening. If the argument occurred with a friend because she forgot an important event, she may want to create a system that will help her keep track of significant dates. By working together to prevent the problem from occurring again, the two of you will feel closer and will find strength in teamwork.
Offer an Apology
Every argument should end with an apology so that the two of you can move past it. You should apologize for things you said that you knew would hurt your loved one, as well as for anything that you may have unintentionally done that caused the rift to grow deeper. As you apologize, explain to your loved one how you will react differently next time.
Arguments are difficult, but they are a part of relationships. These tips will help you and your loved one recover from an argument so that the two of you can continue to build a healthy relationship.