Interview with Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn and I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a website that matches coaches with clients based on fit. I am here with John Duffy. He is a psychologist. He is a life coach and he is also the author of “The Available Parent”. Welcome John.
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: Thank you Corey. Thanks for having me man.
Corey: Definitely. Could you share with us why you became a coach?
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: Yeah. I’ve been a psychologist for about 12-13 years now, and about 5 years ago, my wife, Julie, decided to go into coach training and launch a coaching business, and as she went through the training, she came to me every single time after the training and said, “You need to do this.This is a great thing. It’s a great thing for your personal or self growth. I think it might be good for your practice. I really want you to do it.” Eventually, she warmed me down to be honest, and I thought, okay, I’ll try it, and I am so grateful to her that I did because it changed me in a lot of ways. It changed the way I practice for sure and it was like an incredibly enriching experience for me personally as well.
Corey: That’s great. Can you share with us when should someone consider working with you as a coach and psychologist?
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: Yeah. I work with a lot of teenagers. My book is called, “The Available Parent: Radical Optimism for Raising Teens and Tweens,” so I found that my – if I have a niche, it’s I work with teenagers, tweenage kids like 10-13 and their parents, and I do a lot of parent’s coaching as well, kind of helping them through the tough times with their kids as they make that transition to those tricky teen years. So ideally, that’s the kind of client I work with. But really, I find that I specialize in working with relationships, broadly speaking. So, I work with that relationship, I work with you know, adult parent-child relationships. I work with intimate relationships, even work-based relationships.
Corey: And I’m curious, how has your background in psychology been able to help you with your coaching practice?
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: Well, you know, when you go to grad school in psych, you have this broad base of knowledge that you learned about just you know, how the mind works, and that has been very, very helpful in my coaching practice, and there is you know, just like as we have been trained to be coaches, we learn these mirad techniques for any given difficulty. I feel like my toolbox is just that much bigger having gone to grad school in psychology.
Corey: Great. Could you share with us a success story?
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: Yeah. I had worked with a young man. This is a couple of years ago, and to be honest with you Corey, when I first started working with this guy, I think he was 19, maybe 20 at that time, and I decided in my mind and shame on me to be honest that, “Oh this guy is kind of limited in what he is going to be able to do. He does not seem to have a lot of ‘oooomf!’ There doesn’t seem to be a lot of fire in him” And so I thought, well we can get him through college. That would be great. You know, so that’s going to be our goal. I kind of decided that instead of collaborating with him on that. Well, he proved me so wrong. He had a classmate who died of leukemia during the time when I was working with him, and he came in one day shortly thereafter and said, “You know, I have to do this final project for school. I’m going to put together this great big event, and I’m going to bring bands in it. I’m going to bring sitting in. I’m going to make $10,000 to support juvenile diabetes resarch.” And I thought, Wow! That doesn’t sound like you. I do not know if you can pull that off, but I decided, I’m going to go with my client’s gut, not mind and I’m going to support him on this and long behold, 6 months later, there was an enormous event. He raised far more than he thought he would, and he is a pretty successful fundraiser now. So, I supposed if I learned anything from that, it’s that follow your client’s intuition and don’t presume that anybody is really limited in their capacity to do anything.
Corey: And finally, could you share with us in your experience as a psychologist and a life coach, the importance of a match between a coach and a client?
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: You know, I actually don’t want to underestimate the importance of a match between a coach and client. It is one of the most important things. So you know, more so to my thinking technique, or specific background, years of experience. If you find somebody that you connect with, you are going to do a good work. I really believe that and if you feel like, well this person has years of experience and they work with people my age, my gender, I don’t connect to them the whole lot, I don’t think that is going to work very well. In my experience, that does not work.
Corey: Great. Thank you so much John for your time today.
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: My pleasure Corey. Thanks for having me.
About Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy:
Dr. John Duffy is a highly sought-after clinical psychologist, certified life coach, parenting expert, and proud parent. He has been working with teens, tweens, and their families for more than fifteen years. He has provided the critical intervention and support needed to help hundreds of families find their footing.
He has served as a contributing parenting expert for a number of media outlets. These include The Huffington Post, AOL Health, AOL Parent Dish, Notre Dame magazine, Root & Sprout, bettyconfidential.com, makeitbetter.net, examiner.com, and theteendoc.com. He has also served as a parenting and relationship expert on a number of radio programs, including the nationally-syndicated Mr. Dad program with best-selling author Armin Brott, and The Lite Show on WNTD in Chicago. Dr. Duffy has also contributed to a number of books, including Living Life as a Thank You (Viva Editions) by Mary Beth Sammons and Nina Lesowitz. Details and article excerpts can be found on this web site. He blogs on availability on the website and communicates regularly through his fan page on Facebook and Twitter.