Interview with life coach: Dr. Marjorie Rand
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn. I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com, where we match we match clients with great coaches. I am here today with Dr. Marjorie Rand. She is a therapist and a life coach. Welcome Marjorie.
Dr. Marjorie Rand: Hi Corey.
Corey: Thanks for joining me today. Could you tell me, why did you become a life coach?
Dr. Marjorie Rand: Well, I think coaching came in to existence. I don’t know about 15 years ago or so? But I think it’s just exploded these days because people don’t have the luxury of really spending years in therapy, doing extremely deep work. They have issues that are happening right here and now that need to be solved, and so I found myself more and more focusing in non-specific issues with people as opposed to doing long-term depth psychotherapy with them. So, that I called coaching. So I sort of switched acts back and forth.
Corey: And how long have you been a therapist?
Dr. Marjorie Rand: I’ve been a therapist, licensed, for 35 years.
Corey: Wow. So you bring a lot of that I bet into the coaching practice.
Dr. Marjorie Rand: Yes, absolutely. It’s just a different direction. Therapy is more vertical and coaching is more horizontal, if that makes any sense to you.
Corey: Say more about that if you would.
Dr. Marjorie Rand: Well, with coaching you are more problem-solving, helping people get unstuck, working on accountability, and it is more narrowly focused. So, it could be just one issue, like I could be an anxiety coach for people and teach them how to meditate and how to breathe and do mindfulness and not talk about other things, just that one thing. So it is more focused that way. If you have accountability in coaching, that means they have to make contracts or agreements about what they are going to do. They have to report back to you. Therapists don’t do that, but eventually, I think it’s an intermediate step for them to be able to learn how to be accountable to themselves.
Corey: Great. So, when should someone consider working with you as a coach?
Dr. Marjorie Rand: Okay. I think when people are stuck, whether it’s stuck in a relationship, stuck in a job that they hate. When they cannot figure out how to shift and change, they need help with the coach to show them the way to get there.
Corey: Help them to get past that “stuckness”. Ok, great. Do you have a sense of who your ideal client is?
Dr. Marjorie Rand: Well, ideally, I would love to have someone who is highly motivated and ready to change. It is not usually the case. Usually, see their way out of the problem and that is back to the “stuckness” theory again, but I help people in a lot of different areas. That is why probably life coaches maybe the best title because it’s like a lot of things. I am a health coach, so people who have issues with well-being, health, nutrition, anything related to the body that would be an ideal client for me, chronic pain clients – because I have the tools to teach them what they need to do. They have to go home and practice. So the person would have to be willing to do the work.
Corey: So in your practice, in your experience, how important is a match between a client and coach?
Dr. Marjorie Rand: I think whether it’s a client and a therapist or a client and a coach, I think the relationship is the most important thing that there is. If you don’t have rapport with somebody or you can’t form an alliance with them, there’s going to be resistance, and they are not going to be able to receive what you have to give them. So, I think your relationship is the whole thing and that’s why having your website with therapists’ and coaches’ matching is just such a great idea.
Corey: Thank you. Thank you. I agree by the way. So could you share a coaching success story?
Dr. Marjorie Rand: Well, there are a number of them okay. One of them, I mentioned nutrition earlier. This is not so much about like losing weight, not that kind of dieting, but working with somebody who has lots of issues with food and giving them the tools that they need to do to be able to successfully get past their block. For instance, writing their food down, going to Trader Joe’s for example, or Whole Food’s or something like that and discovering the right kind of food to buy, keeping a record of your exercise, so forth and so on. I had somebody who could not lose weight, could not motivate herself to exercise, and she did one thing at a time, just what was doable. This week, just one thing, an6nd change their thinking from fat thinking to thin thinking or a way from a dieting mentality to a weight-release mentality, a lifestyle change, and one week at a time, she added one more task and she is completely transformed and loss 30 pounds in 2 months.
Corey: Oh, how wonderful.
Dr. Marjorie Rand: But also it is exercising and meditating, and coaching yourself. So that’s one example and it helps a lot of people get out of jobs that they absolutely hated to be in, but they just couldn’t leave. So those are the type of things.
Corey: Wonderful. Well, thank you so much for your time Marjorie. I really appreciate it.
Dr. Marjorie Rand: You are very welcome. It was a pleasure.
About Dr. Marjorie Rand
I have been a psychotherapist for 35 years, written 3 books, many published articles and trained therapists worldwide. I am a marriage counselor and a divorce mediator. I’ve raised 6 kids and have been a stepmom. So I can claim to be a specialist in parenting and step parenting. In addition I have been a Yoga practitioner for 30 years and am a certified Yoga Therapist and meditation teacher.