Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn and I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a website that matches coaches with clients based on fit. I am here with Sandra Sessoms Penny. She is a business coach. She is a life coach. She is a life balance coach. She is a creativity coach. She has a lot of great coaching, and I am very excited for her to be here. Welcome Sandra.
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: Thank you Corey. Thanks for having me.
Corey: Sandra, could you share with us, how did you become a life coach?
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: Well, I considered my diverse background. I have a background – I was in the military for a long time. I retired from the military with 21 years of excellent service and in that field, I did work with individuals as a paralegal. I worked with individuals from the legal side of the house and then I became a teacher through the Troops to Teacher’s Program, and I taught three years in middle school, 8th graders. I taught Civics and Language Arts, and then after three years, I did become a school administrator and I had the opportunity to work with children, teachers, parents, school administrators – just everyone, the community in general, and I am also an ordained minister. So, that background of being able to work with people that long, working with people led me to this field. I realized that this is the best way that I can do the greatest good for everyone concerned.
Corey: Thank you. Could you share with us, why are you a coach?
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: I am a coach because I believe that I have a service heart. I believe in helping people to grow from whoever they are to whoever they want to be, and I love people who love dreaming about doing great things. They just need someone to help push them along the way and I am the perfect person for that. I love working with people.
Corey: Could you share with me, when is a good time for someone to see you as a coach?
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: A great time for someone to see me as a coach is when they have exhausted all of their other resources and they are at the point where they really want help and they want in now. And so, they actually talk with me. I had a lot of people who initially will speak with me, but they don’t follow through, and then what they realize, “Man! I really do need her help! I will get the email, the text message, the email. I am ready to talk now.” So, people will talk to me when they are ready to move forward in their lives.
Corey: That’s the critical factor; it’s when they are ready. They need to be ready to make a change in their life.
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: Absolutely.
Corey: So, do you have an ideal client or someone you prefer to work with or you’d like to work with?
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: Well, ideally because of my background, I do enjoy working with children, young adults, senior citizens, military individuals who are transitioning, men and women in general and people who are just starting their business. So people who are ready to move forward at that point, and in the case where I’m working with children, the parents are ready for their children to move forth.
Corey: That’s nice. In your experience as a coach, how important is a match between a coach and a client, in your experience?
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: It’s very important to have the right match because relationships are important, and as a coach, you want to work with someone who trusts you and you trust them to do what they said that they’re going to do. So being able to match the personalities, to match the mindset, the desires, the goals, someone who believes in moving forward, and I believe that is important to include with getting the right match for the right client.
Corey: Thank you. In your experience as a coach, could you share with us a success story?
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: Absolutely! Many success stories, but I’ll give you one.
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: I had a client when I first started by business who was really stuck on moving forward. She was a servant as well, but she never served herself. She never gave herself the opportunity to dream and to just take hold of the things that life offered her. A very professional woman who really like helping people but she really didn’t take time to
grow herself, and so we begin our coaching relationship, and she realized that she said yes too often, and during the course of our coaching, she realized, I can say no and do things for myself, and she actually set goals with me and then started following through. Every time we met, she says, “Okay, I did this. What’s next?” You know what’s next, just follow through, and she did that successfully, and now she tells everybody that getting a coach is the best thing in the world to do.
Corey: And she can say no now.
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: She knows how to say no and quickly.
Corey: That’s great. Thank you so much Sandra for being with us today.
Life Coach Sandra Sessoms Penny: Thank you. I appreciate the opportunity. Have a great one.
About Business Life Coach Sandra Sessoms-Penny
Coach Sandra “S-P” is a highly motivated and engaging professional. Having experienced the ins and outs of the business world from the military, private sector, public school and higher education organizations, she has witnessed first hand what and how success looks and how to help others achieve success. She is a life long learner and avid researcher. She knows how to get people to see the best in themselves, their situations and in their organizations. She has a servant’s heart. She has literally supported and led thousands. She views coaching as a higher level of personal commitment and accomplishment. She is a graduate of The George Washington University, Old Dominion University, Troy State University-Montgomery and Saint Leo University.
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn and I’m the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a site that matches coaches with clients based on fit. I am here with Pauline Haynes. She is a personal life coach. She specializes in working with women who are making a transition from one life stage to the next. Welcome Pauline.
Personal Life Coach Pauline Haynes: Thanks Corey. It’s a pleasure to be here.
Corey: Pleasure to have you. So could you share with us, why are you a coach?
Personal Life Coach Pauline Haynes: I think I can put it very simply and I’d say it’s because I care, because I like people, because I am curious about people, and because I have this passion to make a difference and to serve, and I think it all started when I think for about 10 years I worked with people living with AIDS. It gave me an opportunity of being in a very intimate setting with people who were oftentimes, they were at the end of their lives, but they didn’t feel like they had stopped living. They were in a place of almost bliss. They were in a place of joy, of fulfilment, of letting go, of giving over, of just being very centered in who they were, and I felt such a tremendous honor in being with them at such a vulnerable time in their lives, and I was able to listen to them, to hear them, to hear the joys of their lives, to hear the sorrows of their lives, and that made me realize that – there was something I could do and after 10 years, lots of people I have worked with have passed away, and then I needed to take a break. Contrast that with working in a corporation and for a long time, I did cultural awareness training, and what I noticed with teaching corporations is that they are very – they never take all of themselves to work because everybody has to wear a mask and the mask has to do with, how do I fit in to the culture of this corporation? And oftentimes if they’re in sales, it’s about, how do I upsell the next client? How do I bring in more revenue? If it’s in production, it’s how do I do this quicker, faster, more efficiently? And if they are doing anything creative, it is usually within the confines of the company culture, and it is not that they don’t enjoy their job, but it is almost as if all of them couldn’t be at work. For instance, it didn’t matter where they were raised, it didn’t matter what their cultures were, it didn’t matter what their socioeconomics were, it didn’t matter what their politics or their religion were. All those things had to be left at the door. And so when they came in to work, they had to be at work based on, how do I fit in to this culture? And because I did that, people would come up to me and say, wow! I am so glad that you brought some awareness about what it is to be who I am, but I can’t be who I am at work. And so, there is always this part of them that say, I want more and I’m dying inside and I really want to feel fulfilled. I want to be full of who I am authentically, but they didn’t have the opportunity of doing that. From listening to those speakers over and over again that I realize that our corporations are not set up to actually benefit the individuals. Now, this is not to say that corporations are bad. I’m not saying that at all. I am saying that what it is that we are all needing, seeking as human beings is to have that sense of fulfilment and it is because of that sense of fulfilment and the lack that existed in some of the corporations with which I was teaching that I realized that there’s a need for people to just connect on the human level. So that in a word, that is what got me into coaching.
Corey: That’s wonderful. It’s great.
Personal Life Coach Pauline Haynes: Thanks.
Corey: So when should someone come in to see you as a personal coach?
Personal Life Coach Pauline Haynes: I think people should come and see me when they are going through a time in their lives when they realize that the way my life is right now is not the way I want it to be, and I believe that everyone of us can get to that stage when something just isn’t working. We know what we want and we don’t exactly know how to get there, but we know that business as usual, isn’t it. But sometimes when you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, you have that goal – let’s face it. Each and every one of us, we have dreams. We have dreams to do, be, or experience something more and whatever the constraints are, sometimes we get stuck in that place that we think we can’t do any better, and sometimes we know the answers. The truth is, most of us know exactly what it is that we need to do.
Corey: Could you share with me Pauline, who is an ideal client for you?
Personal Life Coach Pauline Haynes: The ideal clients for me are the people who are in transition. The people who are wanting to streamline their lives – lives maybe kind of going spinning out of control and they’re just wanting to have some tools and some guidance about how to get to where they want to go, people who are needing some motivation, people who are searching for their lives’ purpose, people who are committed to doing something better, different, to make their live be excellent. The truth is, I think we all want joy, fulfilment, and happiness in our lives. It’s very simple. It’s not complicated. So it’s when that – it’s like you are going along and everything is fine and then something happens and then day after day, you have this nagging feeling that there’s got to be more, there’s got to be more, there’s got to be more. That’s where I come in.
Corey: Okay. That’s great. So in your experience as a coach, how important is match between a coach and a client?
Personal Life Coach Pauline Haynes: Oh my gosh! It is absolutely vital, and if there’s such an intimacy that you’re sharing with each other – in fact, as a coach, I am sometimes hearing things that my client does not share with anybody else and the client has to know that I can trust this person to be honest, to be truthful, and truth is something undervalued or underappreciated, and when you are in a place that you can be really honest with the things that you’ve done, the things that you want to do, the things that you don’t like, it takes a certain amount of courage to do that, and so, you have to have that symbiotic relationship with somebody to be able to be – it’s in essence, being naked in front of a person and being okay with that and to know that you are going to be held in that vulnerability to say exactly what it is that you want to say to be who you are and not be judged – to just be accepted, appreciated, to be listened to, and to be cherished in that vulnerable space and it is only from that space that I think people can begin to make changes and that is very vital for me, so that relationship is key. It is even more important than the techniques that you use because the techniques becomes secondary. Again, I come back to the human nature of who we are, and I come from the very heart-centered place and I think if the heart is not connected, then there’s very little less for us to work with.
Corey: That’s great. Could you share with us a success story?
Personal Life Coach Pauline Haynes: Oh my goodness! I’ve had several, but the one that just came to mind is of a young woman I’ve worked with for – I think it’s about four months, and she was at that she was feeling unfulfilled. She was feeling creatively stuck and within that four months, she has written a book which has been published. I have never known anyone be so totally focused on their next steps. I mean, that gives me joy because it is like putting a seed on the ground and the seed had been germinating and germinating and I came in, and just holding our hands and walking with her to the point of getting that book to publication and it’s done, and that took four months. It is totally unheard of for anyone to complete a novel in such a short space of time. It’s her very first book and I’m so happy for her.
Personal Life Coach Pauline Haynes: Thanks! And the process works.
Corey: Yeah. That’s great. Well, thank you Pauline so much for being with us here today.
Personal Life Coach Pauline Haynes: Corey, thank you so much for having me and I look forward to having more people come into your website and me doing more service to more people.
Corey: Wonderful. Thank you so much.
About Life Coach Pauline Haynes:
Are you frustrated with an aspect of your life, and not sure how to stop making the same choices?
Are you at a cross road, feeling stuck and need guidance to help you find the next steps?
Maybe you are simply hungry for more peace, joy, passion, contentment, and love in your life.
There is hope!!!
Through a collaborative process you and I can find the right strategies, chart a course, set goals, take the necessary steps to get you to your desired outcome.
I will be your accountability partner to guide you, to push you, to be gentle with you, and to be firm with you until you arrive at your pre-determined destination to be transformed into the pure essence of you.
As a coach I come from a heart-centered space, using my intuition and interpersonal communication skills. I honor you as the expert in your life. The education I received is from:
The Christopher Howard Leadership and Coaching Academy
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn and I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a website that matches coaches with clients based on fit. I am here with Michael Casteel. He is a transformational life coach. He is also an author of “Defining the Radical Wholeness Transformational Program.” Welcome Michael.
Transformational Life Coach Michael Casteel: Welcome. Thank you Corey.
Corey: Thanks for being here. Could you share with us, why are you a life coach?
Transformational Life Coach Michael Casteel: I am life coach – really pretty simple because over the past decade, my number one passion and core purpose has been helping successful yet unfulfilled professionals that are seeking to be really happier and find more joy and juice in their life, find the wholeness instead, and there’s a story behind that that starts well with a 7-year-old boy – could I share?
Corey: Please. Please.
Transformational Life Coach Michael Casteel: Okay. So it goes back to 7 years old. This little boy’s sad and depressed and frustrated because of his family dynamics. There was an incident that happened. He happened to grow up in a Baptist Church, so that’s part of the background, and this background at the Baptist Church, he knew that god was fair. So he said, “God, I’ll go ahead and be unhappy and sad as a little boy, but you got to promise when I get to be an adult, I’ll be the happiest man ever.” So right after college – it started in college, I tried to live up to that prayer and throughout college and in my 20’s, I was a poster boy for the positive movement and self-help movement and affirmations, all really just creating more self-sabotage in my life. So what I discovered is that the last thing enduring happiness, the deep joy that we all really want requires us to become whole first, what I call radically whole.
Corey: And through that experience you’ve – sounds like you’ve done a lot of that work?
Transformational Life Coach Michael Casteel: Yeah. It starts with me. I am teaching what I most needed to learn. Yes.
wonderful. So, when should someone consider working with you?
Transformational Life Coach Michael Casteel: Specifically, when they reach a certain amount of success in their lives and then they just kind of lost their juice. They are itching for either something to change in their relationship or something to change in their work life in terms of being more fulfilling or more in purpose. So really, most of my clients are between 30 and 60, kind of broad middle-aged and they have had enough ego success, so they’ve started asking the question, there must be something more, specifically around relationships, having difficulty of wanting more intimacy or work clients becoming more of an expression of your authentic selves.
Corey: Wonderful. I’d say it’s very valuable service you provide. Do you have an ideal client?
Transformational Life Coach Michael Casteel: Yeah, well I kind of mentioned I guess the ideal client, just then someone probably around middle age – well the age is not as important as the itch for something more, the desire to live a more authentic, meaningful life. People talk about transcending ego and stuff like that. It’s not really about that, but it is about living a life that’s more dedicated to something more, more of an authentic expression of yourself in service to life, and anything less than that becomes unfulfilling.
Corey: So, as your experience as a transformational life coach, how important is a match between a coach and a client?
Transformational Life Coach Michael Casteel: Well, I’d say it’s super important. The deeper the work, the more important. In fact, as you know Corey, the research, I think indicates pretty straightforward therapist and coaches, the number one predictor for me for success and change is the relationship between a client and therapist or coach, so really important.
Corey: Could you share with us a success story?
Transformational Life Coach Michael Casteel: Well, here’s a recent favourite, very recent. Two 40-year-old successful doctors, two beautiful children, on their first session, they come in they are miserable, they are moving towards divorce. They are separated, living in two different homes, arguing about how the children – even though successful, unhappy in their careers and the second session with us, the wife said that she had never felt so hurt and so gotten in all of their 20 years of marriage, and he said, I finally think I now know how to please her, and then six months later, through our work together, defining radical wholeness six month program, they have recommitted to their marriage and then invited me to be a part of that recommitment ceremony and they had changed – they are still being successful skilled doctors but they are working less hours, but in doing so in a way that is more aligned with their authentic self and the one true gift that they are here to live and give, and what else… what’s more… oh, the best part is they said they found this new spiritual kind of connection with each other and with life that feels authentic to them and has the doctor status stuff that was so much farther than life really be – I’ve witnessed them become, not actually holistic but have a spiritual life and relationship life that is a way juicier than any of the status that they’ve enjoyed in years.
Corey: That’s wonderful. What a great success story.
About Life Coach Michael Casteel:
As a spiritual therapist and transformational life coach, Michael has designed programs and proven techniques to help clients achieve personal growth through spiritual development. His goal is to transform lives to ones filled with peace, passion, purpose, power and presence, or what he calls Radical Wholeness.
Michael has 30-plus years of experience studying and working with transformational psychology and emotional healing practices. His highly original and creative approach to emotional healing and life transformation blends modern psychology with the ancient wisdom of religious practices. He brings considerable passion to his work helping people release their emotional pain and end the feeling of being stuck and disconnected.
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn and I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a website that matches coaches with clients based on fit. I am here with Coach Queenie. She is a success coach who specializes in social media marketing. Welcome Coach Queenie.
Success Coach Queenie: Hi Corey! I’m so glad to be here.
Corey: Great to have you. So, could you share with us, why are you a coach?
Success Coach Queenie: The thing with me is, before being a coach, I was a banker. Throughout my whole life, my teachers, especially from primary school always told me, “Queenie, you are going to be working for the rest of your life, be sure you choose something you are interested in.” So, I’ve always kept that in mind. Every job I did – I’ve done over probably 10 or 20 professions – but every job I did was more about what interested me. So, every time I got bored of a job, I would go and find something else that would interest me. And, I got to the point where people were saying, “Queenie, you have to stop jumping around. You have to stay in a job for, like, at least 5 or 10 years and build up from there.” And so, I listened to them. I’ve went into banking, and I’ve been in banking for over 10 years. But then, I got bored, and everything I did in banking was so boring that I had to get myself amused by doing extracurricular activities. So, I did a lot of volunteer work. I did a lot of teaching on the side. And I did anything and everything to help people because that is where I felt fulfilled and that is where my passion lied. It was in helping people. So, I decided to give myself some time off. I came back to Toronto – after being in Asia for over 9 years, just to take a break. I said to myself, “You know what Queenie, if you come back to Toronto where your family is and you continue doing what you did, then nothing changes.” I’m just in a new environment doing the same thing. I’m thinking, that’s a bit silly. Why would I want to do that? So, I thought… why waste all this time moving to a different place and do the same thing? That thought made no sense to me. So, I said to myself, “I am going to give myself a year off. I don’t know what I am going to do in that year, but once I figure it out, then I’ll figure it out, and that’s sort of how all started.” Because for me, I was always helping people, and that’s where I feel that my strengths lied, no matter what I did. When I came across coaching, I did all this research starting to realize – wait a minute, this is exactly what I’ve been doing all my life – but I just didn’t realize that there was a profession for it. Now, I was reflecting back than… I might be a teacher, I might be a social worker, I might be working in the hospital, but I didn’t realize that coaching could be a profession. When I discovered that, that’s when I came on board and I started to do a lot of research to find a reputable, credible school that could provide me the skill sets to be in this profession.
Corey: Yeah. So, when should someone consider working with you as a coach?
Success Coach Queenie: With me… coaching is really interesting. Coaching is like looking for a trainer at the gym or it’s like looking for a therapist or it’s like looking for somebody that you trust and you feel comfortable to be around with, right? And you know, if you are going through a family crisis and you need a doctor, you obviously want to choose someone you could connect with or if you are going through a law case and you are fighting for a divorce, you want to select a lawyer that connects with you, and that is in your best interest. Selecting a coach is the same thing, the same process. As for a coach, you want to choose somebody that you feel
connected with, that you trust, because when you are working with a coach, you have to be very open. You have to be so frank and you have to have that trust there or else, the relationship or the coaching relationship would never happen or workout. So, you have to feel connected and drawn to the person that you choose to be your coach.
Corey: So, who’s an ideal client for you?
Success Coach Queenie: I’ve been exploring this a lot because I am very new at the industry. I’ve been around for one year, however, I’ve done a lot of experiential learing. I’ve attended many seminars. I’ve coached anybody and everybody that came to me. So, it didn’t matter how old they were, what they were doing with their lives or anything like that. And what I discovered is, that the type of people who are drawn to me, there are two types. The first ones are students. They are young adults who are trying to find their way and they don’t know what to do with their life after school. They are the confused. They are lost, and they love talking to me because I have the experience and the knowledge that I’ve been through to be able to guide them in a direction that’s suitable for them, and then the second group that is drawn to me are actually very well educated, experienced coaches themselves, which is quite interesting, because I had never thought that they would be drawn to me. But the reason why they were drawn to me is because they have all this experience and knowledge but social media, computers, Internet – that’s all foreign to them. So they appreciate my guidance providing them with what they already know and implementing that on to a global platform. They understand that I understand them, so they trust me to guide them in the right direction that would best fit their marketing or business needs.
Corey: That’s great. And I know from experience, that is a very big need in the industry. So that’s great that you are able to help. So, how important, in your experience as a coach, is a match between a coach and a client?
Success Coach Queenie: How important? It’s the key to the coaching relationship. So, without it nothing happens and I don’t believe in – like even for myself – I don’t believe that you would know; One day you wake up in the morning and say you want a coach, I don’t believe that the first person you see is going to be the person that you are going to hire as a coach. I believe in a screening process. So, similar to a land lord who is looking for a tenant, right? You don’t want to accept anybody that comes in and says, “I want to rent your place.” You want to screen them based on the criteria’s that you set forth, right? Maybe you want a non-smoker, no pets, etc. Whatever the reasons maybe, a coach is the same thing, and for me, it is all about trusting intuition. Like, it’s a gut feeling and you know whether you’ll be able to help that person because yes, even thought I could accept anybody and everybody, but you also take into consideration that, we don’t have time for that and we want to be able to maximize what we can do for you and the only way we could do that for you, is if we both feel like there is a need that we could both meet for the other party, and that takes time. So, it doesn’t happen immediately and it takes time. For example, myself, I will be doing my practicum in coaching in December. I delayed it for a year. I wanted to gain more coaching experience myself first, and now I’m ready. But, now, for me, even I need to go find a coach. So, I need to screen some coaches who are ICF qualified, which means International Coach Federation, and I’ll be doing screening too because I need someone to coach me as well, as we go through this learning experience together.
Corey: Could you share with me a success story?
Success Coach Queenie: Success story? Well, I don’t know where to start because there’s quite a few interesting stories that come about and I guess the one that comes in mind as I’m speaking to you is… I received an e-mail from this person in the U.S. and she declared to me in her e-mail that she was in crisis – I couldn’t sleep that night because I was thinking, I don’t know how to handle this. I don’t know whether I’m the appropriate person for her to speak to, right? Because, maybe, she needs to speak to a 1-800 helpline number or somebody that deals with suicides because I had no idea what she meant when she wrote what she wrote. So, I didn’t respond until the next day and I stayed calm about it, and then when I responded, I said, “you know, are you sure that I’m the right person that you want to speak to? Right? Because I don’t live close to you and maybe it’s better for you to have someone in the neighbourhood to speak to you instead of me because I am not close enough.” She has been following me for a while through my social media, so she knows who I am and I guess she has grown to be comfortable with me just based on my presence. She said, “no, Queenie, I want you to work with me.” I said, “Okay. But let me let you know first that there is only so much I could do for you and if it does come to the point we need someone to be there with you where you are situated then I could just try to reach out to see if there is anybody in the area that could help.” So, it’s those kind of things, that sometimes come out of the blue, but then at the same time it provides you with the most fulfilment because you start to see and realize that people are out there listening to you even though you may not be able to hear them all the time, but when they do reach out to you, they totally trust you and they are willing to share everything about them so that you can help guide them and to me, that’s the core of coaching, and that’s the core of being of service to help someone, and yeah, those are the kind of experiences that I’ll always remember.
Corey: That’s wonderful. Well, thank you Queenie so much for being here today. I really appreciate it.
Success Coach Queenie: Thank you.
About Success Coach Queenie:
Coach Queenie is a success coach who specializes in helping small business create powerful social media marketing.
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn and I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a website that matches coaches with clients based on fit. I am here with Anne Jolles. She is a life and resiliency coach. She is also an author and a speaker. Welcome Anne.
Life Coach Anne: Hi Corey! Thank you so much for having me.
Corey: Thank you for joining us. Could you share with us, why are you a life coach?
Life Coach Anne: That’s a great question. I am a life coach because I cherish life and I think we have so many circumstances and factors that continually work against us and in some cases batter us down, and I found in my life that – I found many ways to help other people to really show up in their life a strong and as brilliant and as alive as they possibly can be. So, I think I’ve always been a life coach because I have always felt that giving from my heart to others is the way to connect and so much can happen from there.
Corey: So, when should someone consider working with you as a life coach?
Life Coach Anne: Well, it’s funny. My feeling is, in 10 years, everyone is going to have a life coach. It’s sort of like 10 years ago when the whole yoga movement started and now, there are yoga studios practically on every corner.
Corey: That’s right.
Life Coach Anne: People start to feel how they can move their energy and move towards lightness and brilliance. That is when they started and kept doing yoga, and I think that people should call a life coach under a few different circumstances. One is if they feel like they are having an ordinary life and they’d like to move it up to extraordinary, that’s a great time to call a life coach. Another one is when they are hitting lots and lots of resistances and just can’t get to where they want to go, and I can help people navigate those places to figure out how to get there. And another reason to call a coach is if you really don’t know exactly where you do want to go and I help people figure that out. So, that’s when you call a coach.
Corey: Who is your ideal client?
Life Coach Anne: My ideal client is someone who is really open to change, who wants things to be different in their life. I work with people in all different professions, in all different walks of life, but what holds them all together is the desire to create a life that they’re enjoying, that they’re productive, and that they’re successful. That’s my ideal client. I work with people executives. I work with – right now, I am working with someone in the financial industry who is really having a difficult time emotionally navigating these waters because there is so much uncertainty. I work with artists. I work with yoga teachers. I work with middle managers. All who were being battered I’d say or – there is so much uncertainty in the world that I can help them, pull them back inside, find their strengths, find how to navigate and then go forward towards what they want to achieve. That makes sense?
Corey: Yeah. That’s very clear.
Life Coach Anne: Okay.
Corey: In your experience as a life coach, how important is a match between a coach and a client?
Life Coach Anne: Well, that’s very interesting. I think a match is in any situation is important. I mean, if you think of what a match means, you know, a match is… you know, two surfaces strike together and you are looking for a spark. That is what a match does. So, you are looking for the two surfaces, the two people, coming together and what happens, what we like to say in coaching is, I show up, you show up, and it is what develops between the two of us that is really magical and really important. That’s what the work is and chemistry is important. Expectations are important. But really, as far as I’m concerned, I try to just be with however shows up and in many times try to match your energy at the moment, so then we can then work with it. So chemistry is absolutely important. Timing is important. There is so much that’s important. But certainly, there has to be a camaraderie and a similarity in feelings in where you want to go.
Corey: Can you share with me an experience or example of a success story?
Life Coach Anne: Well, I had one last week that was just like from a coach’s standpoint, it couldn’t be more delicious. One of my clients who lives down in North Carolina, she is an artist and I’ve been working with her a long time. She started a while ago and wanted to not only nurture her artistic abilities, but also to make a business out of it. So, it was sort of the culmination of working with her. She sent me an invitation that she had been invited to show her work two hours west of Boston. It was a university and it was a beautiful museum in a university and she asked me to come on out, and for me, it was just wonderful to sit in that art showing, see her fabulous paintings which have evolved into, I call the masterpieces and, but not only that, because for coaching, it is about the being and the doing. The doing for her was all of her beautiful paintings on the walls which were fabulous, and then we have coached so much around the being, and here is this artist who has evolved and grown and in all her glory, showing her work to this whole community in western Massachusetts. It was a celebration certainly for her because she really had achieved the goals that she set out to achieve when she began coaching. But as a coach, there is nothing better than to see your client achieve the goals, step into the them as a person and shine in the moment. So that was a wonderful success that’s sweet.
Corey: Wow. That’s wonderful. What a great manifestation.
Life Coach Anne: It was a great manifestation.
Corey: That’s great.
Life Coach Anne: For both of us.
Corey: Yes, absolutely. I’m sure it was very rewarding.
Life Coach Anne: Oh yeah. It was great.
Corey: Yeah. Well, thank you so much Anne for spending some time with us today.
Life Coach Anne: Thank you Corey. Great to meet you.
Life Coach Anne: And you do good work! So thank you.
Corey: Thank you.
About Life Coach Anne Jolles
Anne Barry Jolles is a life coach, author and speaker who has helped hundreds of people wake up their personal and professional lives when they are stuck, stagnant, pointed in the wrong direction or feel that there is something bigger they want to do.
She is an expert at creating and sharing life tools full of wisdom for others to begin transforming their lives immediately.
She relishes working with people who want to create a life they love and are willing to do what it takes. She has a strong ability to help others discover their best and multiply it…
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn and I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a site that helps match coaches with clients based on fit. I am here with Linda Wright. She is a co-active coach. Welcome Linda.
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: Thank you.
Corey: Could you share with us, why are you a coach?
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: I am a coach because it brings two of my greatest loves together. Working with people is a must for me and challenge. I love tackling challenges, so I get to you know, work with people to overcome their challenges and help them become more successful.
Corey: Okay. And so, when should someone consider working with you?
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: They should consider working with me if they are not sure which roads to take, if they have that feeling that there is something that they should be doing, something that would really make them more fulfilled and they don’t know what that is, if their inner demons are talking to them and holding them back, you know, I can kind of sweep them off their shoulders. Anytime someone is working toward a goal and they are not being there as fast as they’d like to. That’s when they should call me.
Corey: Okay. And is there an ideal client for you?
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: An ideal client would be a leader. A leader of a business, a leader of a team, a leader of a project, someone who is trying to take an idea and take it to fruition, someone who is striving towards something. That would be my ideal client.
Corey: Mostly in the business context?
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: Mostly yes.
Corey: Okay. And so in your experience as a coach, could you share with us the importance of a match between a coach and a client?
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: Yeah. I think that’s critical. I think that if the coach and the client aren’t communicating on the same level, there is not going to be progress, and the relationship between the coach and the client is absolutely critical because the client has to be able to trust the coach and the coach has to be able to listen to what the client is saying and not saying. So, you will have to be able to, you know, intuit a little bit.
Corey: That’s right. Thank you. And so, could you share with us a success story?
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: Sure.
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: A success story, and I will try and make this as vague as possible, but you will get the gist.
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: I had a client who was not only having work issues, but having family issues, and we decided – we looked at his values and decided – he decided that family was pretty important for him and you know, maybe you should attack this in a different way. Maybe, you know, he should not look at this certain situation as a problem, but maybe as challenge, as an opportunity to learn something new, and he actually – what he actually accomplished was instead of being reactive to certain things in his family, he became proactive and became – he learned how to prevent those situations, how to turn those situations in a positive way and it really lined up with his value and he found a lot of happiness through that, and now we work on his work.
Corey: That’s wonderful. That’s great. Congratulations on that.
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: Thank you.
Corey: Well, thank you Linda for spending some time with us today. I appreciate it.
Co-Active Life Coach Linda: Thank you for having me.
About Co-Active Life Coach Linda Wright
Linda Wright is a Life Coach specializing in individual and small business growth and balance. She helps clients define their life or company agenda, and helps them see where they are now and move forward. She keeps clients focused on their goals (as defined by each client) and holds them accountable for their tasks. This process is driven by the client – the coach keeps them on track and helps to keep their “inner saboteurs” at bay.
With more than 25 years of professional experience in Human Resources and Business Management, Linda has helped several small businesses through their initial growing pains while helping their principals keep their work/life balance. She has helped many individuals to discover their goals and ambitions, and to move forward until they were successful.
Mrs. Wright is a summa cum laude graduate from American Intercontinental University, receiving her Bachelor of Business Administration Degree in Organizational Psychology and Development. She has furthered her studies at the Coaches Training Institute and through her personal coaches and mentors. Linda has served on the board of Shalom House, a Women’s Shelter; and is currently Chair of the Pastoral Commission at her church.
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn, and I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a website that matches coaches with clients based on fit. I’m here with Laura Garnett, with Garnett Consulting. She turns passion into profit and she works with small business owners who are passionate about making a change. Welcome Laura.
Business Coach Laura: Thank you. I am glad to be here. Thank you.
Corey: Could you – Thank you. Could you share with us a little bit more about the kind of business owners you work with?
Business Coach Laura: Yes, absolutely. You know, some people always ask this but I really target business owners who are in the personal development industry and what that means is that they are changing other people’s lives. They are helping people live out to their true potential and I’m doing this because I am kind of a personal development junky and I am a business growth junky, so I combine the two and created what I do.
Corey: Okay. And how long you have been doing this for now?
Business Coach Laura: I’ve been doing this for three years, and it has been an amazing journey. It is always, I think when you are running your own business, it takes on a different hue every year, but it is probably one of the most exciting, stimulating journeys I’ve ever been on.
Corey: And what led you to becoming a coach? Why are you a coach?
Business Coach Laura: Why, I love that question Corey. I am a coach because or I would say, a coach/consultant, because I made a commitment to myself three years ago to build my dream job and it was a little bit of what I was thinking before about kind of combining my love for personal growth with my love for business growth, and honestly, I just, you know, observed what I would do in the absence of money and my favourite thing to do is to sit down and talk to people about their business and help them come up with really creative, interesting ways to make it grow. So, I just kind of took that and ran with it and that’s why I do what I do.
Corey: Wonderful. So when should someone consider working with you?
Business Coach Laura: When should someone consider working with me? Well, I generally work with women and it’s women who are really, I think their gift is helping and coaching other people. You know, a lot of my clients are yoga instructors, coaches, life coaches, and they want to spend time working one-on-one with their clients and not exactly inspired by the business side of things. So it is someone who really needs help in thinking through, you know, how to be strategic and taking their gift and growing up from their business. So I would say it is someone who is looking to go to the next level, but really feels really uncomfortable with all of the business marketing, strategic kind of things around that.
Corey: Is there a moment or you know, sort of a right time when someone should consider working with you?
Business Coach Laura: Well, you know, it’s funny, I’ve been kind of thinking about this and I’ve been tweeting about it you know, it is getting help I think is something that is so critical in order to be living up to your true potential. It is kind of like, you know, I work out a lot but when I work with a personal trainer I even – I work so much harder. So, it has to be, it has to come from within and you have to feel like you are ready to kind of, I would say, kind of burst forward and having someone else help you go through that process. It’s going to make it a lot more enjoyable and I think also allow you to stretch beyond what you think is possible. So I think that is really the time when you look to hire someone and I think it often comes with transition. So, you are rebranding. You are ready to kind of go, you know, double your client base. Those kinds of things are when having someone else help you through that will make it far more likely that it is going to happen.
Corey: Great. Thank you for that.
Business Coach Laura: You’re welcome.
Corey: In your experience, how important is a match between a coach and a client?
Business Coach Laura: Well, you know we have talked about this and I think it is critical, and I don’t you know – it is to me, when I am meeting with people I am talking about or you know, we are talking about a client, the chemistry between us, our ability to understand each other, our ability to you know, see the world in a similar way makes I think the work far more effective – we can get more done in a faster way. We are more efficient. So in that, from that standpoint, a match is critical for me and I really, you know, won’t work with someone unless I feel that we have that understanding, because you don’t want to spend most of your time when you are working with someone trying to just get to understanding. You want that to be the base and then the work you are doing is all about kind of going forward. So, again – and we said I love your work, I love what you are doing, I think it is critical.
Corey: Thank you. Could you share with us a success story?
Business Coach Laura: Sure. Absolutely. Those are my favourite things to talk about. I actually had a client and she – or I still have her. We are still kind of seen how she performs over the following year, but when I met her, she was working in her full time job as well as running her business on the side, and she really, when we first met, we talked about her quitting in six months and after our you know, month of working together, she decided to quit. You know, earlier than expected and is now focusing on her business full time and is already seeing double the results that she had in the past. So that to me was, you know, hugely rewarding because she really wasn’t happy at her full time job. So, you know, I think I worked together – it gave her kind of the sense – gave her the sense that things are going to be great. She knew exactly what she had to do and she just needed to do it, so that felt fantastic.
Corey: That’s great. Could you share some of the things that you did with her to help her to get that confidence?
Business Coach Laura: Sure. Absolutely. I mean, those are critical components to the work that I do, but it was really around helping her get clear on you know, what is her gift and how does that differentiate from a lot of others, because I think in the personal development world there is you know, especially the coaches, there are a million coaches but there is one of you. So really, you know, having the language and the understanding to communicate what she can bring to people that is different from others and then building a marketing plan that not only did she, you know, was excited about and felt was a reflection of her strengths and what she wanted to do, but felt like it was going to give her concrete results and we built out, you know, a financial plan and a client plan that got her
making the amount of money she needed in order to feel comfortable with quitting her job. So that’s one piece of what we were able to do in order to make her feel comfortable.
Corey: That’s great. I think those types of tools and that type of advice is critical, so thanks for sharing that.
Business Coach Laura: You’re welcome anytime.
Corey: And thanks for being here. I appreciate your time.
Business Coach Laura: Oh, I am so happy to be here. Thank you, Corey.
About Business Coach Laura Garnett
I am a growth junkie, I love it. I can’t get enough of the excitement that comes when seeing a business grow or having a personal growth realization. I believe that running your own business is an experiment in personal growth. I have come to this conclusion by going through the process of starting my own business and helping others grow theirs. I created my dream job from scratch because I couldn’t imagine spending my free time doing anything else. In fact I did it for free in the beginning and couldn’t stop. I am passionate about everyone doing work that fires them up and even more passionate about helping those that need help with growing their own passion driven business.
I work with small business owners who are established and emerging thought leaders in the personal development industry. Authors, speakers, teachers and coaches who have a big vision but need help on the actions required to grow it. Specifically I help my clients understand what it is they do best, how to language that to others and then build them an action plan for profit that will help generate more revenue as a result. In addition to that I help my clients become aware of their limiting beliefs. The more businesses I help grow the clearer it becomes, the biggest roadblock to growth is our own thoughts. We will be getting those out and insuring that you believe in what you create.
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn, and I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a website that matches coaches with clients based on fit. I am here with Christine Hassler. She is a life coach. She is a spiritual counsellor. She is an author, a trainer. She is very talented and I’m thrilled to have her here. Welcome Christine.
Life Coach Christine Hassler: Thanks Corey.
Corey: Could you share with us why you became a life coach?
Life Coach Christine Hassler: I don’t think I had a choice. Honestly, you know, it wasn’t something that I – was like, I am going to be a life coach. So I’ll tell you a long story as quickly as I possibly can. So, it starts in fourth grade. This is important. I won’t tell the whole story, but it starts in fourth grade when a couple of girls started to be a “Hate Christine Club” which I was not a member of, right? And so at a very young age, I became sort of, really believed that I was not likable and not good enough, all that kind of stuff that we start to believe when we are teased or criticized around. And so usually what we do is we develop a way to overcompensate for our insecurities. So my overcompensation was to be an over achiever. So starting in fourth grade, I just became Ms. Achiever, straight A, went to college, double major and a minor, graduated in 3-1/2 years with a 3.9 GPA, that I’d like to brag about because after college no one ever asked me. You know what it was. And that continued and I moved out to Hollywood where all insecure people go to try out, you know, be part of the adult version of the popular club and I worked my way up. I became an agent at a very young age which was unheard of, and I just had this great life from the outside. I was making great money. I was dating a, you know, a successful guy. I had this awesome job. I had an assistant, and so everything from the outside world seemed like it was all falling into place, and I seemed like I had it all together, and this over achieving pattern just was starting to wear me out and I started really realizing – Oh my gosh! Nothing that I’m doing, the relationship, the money, the job is satisfying me on an internal level. So I ended up quitting my job which began what I call my quarter life crisis because I always define myself by external things. So when I let go of something that really define me, I really didn’t know who I was, and I tried all different things. I had like eight different jobs, everything from hand modelling to working for Yahoo. And while that was happening, I was going through a lot of health issues. I was going in lots of debt. I was having lots of trouble with my family and then I got engaged, and six months before my wedding, my fiancé called it off. So, I was on my bathroom floor one night, really contemplating whether or not I even wanted to live, and felt so lost and felt like I had worked so hard to build this life and it just, all was crumbling down. And in that moment, I didn’t know what else to do and I wasn’t particularly spiritual at that time, but I thought, why don’t I pray? Like, I got nothing to lose. So I started to pray which sounded like a negotiation because I was an agent. And I said, alright God, I’ll make you a deal. If I still can find my way out of this, I’ll help other people, and I didn’t know what that meant but the next day I woke up with the idea for my first book, and that started everything. And when I was writing the book and researching the book, women that I was talking to wanted to talk to me more, and I didn’t know why. And they assumed that I was a coach, or a counsellor, or something, and when I said I wasn’t, they said, well you should be. And after five or so people told me that, I went to my coach who I was done with at that time and I said, “Hey Mona like everybody is telling me, you know, this is – I should go into this.” She was like, yeah, I think so. I think it’s your gift, and which was good because I never could sing or dance or draw or anything, like I don’t know what my gift was. So when I found coaching, I just felt like I was home. It just feels so natural to me. I absolutely love it and I learned so much from it. You know, personal growth and human behaviour, and their mind and the emotions in the body – all of that is just fascinating to me. So I don’t think I couldn’t be a coach.
Corey: That’s wonderful, and now you’ve been a coach for how long?
Life Coach Christine Hassler: Since 2004.
Corey: Okay. Great, and as a life coach, when is an ideal time for someone to come and see you?
Life Coach Christine Hassler: You know, I don’t know that there is a certain, ideal time. I think the best way I could answer that is when someone feels willing and ready. Now, there is always a time we will come to crossroads and
there are always times when our life is challenging or something happens, and most people think that that may be the best time to see a coach. But if you don’t have the other aspect of totally being willing to go – okay, the way I’ve been doing it is clearly not working, and I’m willing to try on a new way. It really is that willingness, and I don’t even think that your life has to be going in a direction that you’re not happy with. You know, you can come to life coaching and you just want to learn more and you want to grow. We can always grow in our consciousness.
Corey: Absolutely. Find tune. Find tune.
Life Coach Christine Hassler: Yeah, find tune. So, I mean, to encapsulate my answer, anytime is a good time as long as you’re willing.
Corey: Okay. Do you have an ideal client?
Life Coach Christine Hassler: Huh. I’ve been thinking of all my clients and they are all so different and I just love them all. My ideal client, going back to what I said, is someone who is willing, someone who is committed, you know, who shows up, someone who really sees this as an investment for themselves, almost like a luxury. Kind of a luxury and a necessity, all wrapped up into one. But it really is -it goes back to that willingness. I love working with anybody who is honest and authentic and isn’t worried about you know, what I’m going to think of them and is ready to roll up their sleeves and do the work.
Corey: So in your experience – thank you. And so in your experience as a life coach, how important is a match between a coach and a client?
Life Coach Christine Hassler: Well, I think it is really important. I’ll think about my coach and how – let’s see, I started seeing her when I was 22.She was my coach until she passed away, so it was like, you know, a good 13 years, 12 or 13 years, and when I found her, it was like – I felt so understood, and that to me is the most important thing between a coach and a client. A client has to
feel like the coach really understands them and holds the place of unconditional love and acceptance. It doesn’t mean the coach isn’t going to call them out and push them a little bit, but knowing that it is a totally safe place. And for me, how I know I’m a match to a client is if that client is going through something that I’ve gone through or is looking for something that I’ve been able to find. You know, I coach a lot of people and I coach people who have children, but if they want specific coaching on parenting, I’ll refer them elsewhere because I’m not a parent, but I have been through, you know, career transition. I’ve been through health issues. I’ve been through death of loved ones. I’ve been through breakups and a divorce, like I had a lot of and debt, and trouble with finances, and I found my way out of all those things. So I have a wide range in terms of what I’ve experienced. But if someone comes to me and they are going through something that I can’t relate to, I will find them a coach that can.
Corey: Could you share with me a success storey please?
Life Coach Christine Hassler: Well, there are lots of them that come to mind, but I just had a client yesterday that I’m excited to share about. So, she is – she came to me maybe 2 or 3 years ago. She is a mother of two, had kids at a young age. Her first child was unexpected and they were married, but they were married young, and when she came to me, she had her first daughter, and she was just like, “I feel really lost. I feel like I have this kid and I’m married, and I am 27 years old, and I don’t know who I am, and I don’t have a life.” And she was working and more of the breadwinner in the family and was just exhausted, and spent years doing this. And we started sort of looking at, alright, you know, why did this child come in and what are you learning? What are the kinds of behaviour patterns that you are in, that are keeping you in this cycle of feeling depleted, of feeling of not knowing who you are? So, we just started the discovery process and she worked through things and she had another child in the process, and as she became more clear about who she is, and started to drop a lot of limiting beliefs and limiting stories stories, all of a sudden, there is room for more passion to come through, and she found that what she is really passionate about was pregnancy and birth, and just started becoming really interested in teaching things like breastfeeding and becoming a doula,something that had never occurred to her before. She was in Corporate America and it was through the experience that having these children at a young age that she found this passion for pregnancy and birth and got certified as a doula while she had two kids and was working for fulltime and married. It just started building. People heard of her and it has gotten to the point where she needs to quit her fulltime job. She is already up to two or three birth a month. She has had a wait list. She is charging her full fee and building her business, and it just happened from really looking at something that she thought of, why is this happening? Like, why did I have a child so early? And why am I going through this so early? But it was only through going through that that she realized her passion.
Corey: Wow. That’s a great story. I love that. That’s a good metaphor.
Life Coach Christine Hassler: Yeah.
Corey: So, thank you so much Christine for being here with us today. I really appreciate it.
Life Coach Christine Hassler: My pleasure. Thank you Corey for doing what you do.
Corey: Thank you.
About Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about . . . but it did not come easily. After being inspired by her own unexpected challenges and experiences, she realized her journey was indeed her destination. In 2005, she wrote the first guide book written exclusively for young women, entitled 20 Something 20 Everything. Christine’s second book, The 20 Something Manifesto written for men and women stems from her experience coaching twenty-something’s.
Today, she supports individuals in discovering the answers to the questions: “Who Am I, What do I want, and How do I get it?” Christine is a Life Coach with a counseling emphasis specializing in relationships, career, finances, self-identity, personal and spiritual growth. Her expertise is centered on the twenty and early thirty something years of life. She is passionate about busting the myth that the twenty something years are about living by a checklist and having it all figured out.
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn, and I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a site that matches coaches with clients based on fit. I am here with Terry Hildebrandt. He is a professional certified coach. Welcome Terry.
Executive Coach Terry Hildebrandt Thank you.
Corey: Could you share with us, why are you a coach?
Executive Coach Terry Hildebrandt Well, I love to work with individuals and groups to help them reach their goals. I’ve been working with people in corporate, non-profit, government, and with individuals for over 15 years. I get great personal satisfaction in helping others succeed.
Corey: That’s wonderful. Could you share with us when is the good time that someone should consider working with you as a coach?
Executive Coach Terry Hildebrandt Okay. Clients come to see me for two main reasons: One is to work through a major challenge that’s holding them back from reaching their goals. This could include things like trying to make a major life decision, such as changing careers, improving a skill such as becoming a better communicator, learning to be more organized and productive, or improving their conflict management skills for a few examples. The other main reason people work with me as a coach is to
improve on what they are already doing well. As we know, even top athletes have coaches to keep them at the top of their game and to reach even greater levels of performance. As an executive and leadership coach, I can work with you to reach new levels of performance.
Corey: Okay. Who is an ideal client for you Terry?
Executive Coach Terry Hildebrandt For me, an ideal client is someone who is ready to take action and is looking for a thinking partner that helps them create a plan for success and someone to hold them accountable for sticking with their plan. Coaching works best when the client is open to learning about themselves, exploring new options, and is ready to make some changes. I work with a variety of different clients ranging from corporate employees and leaders to individuals who hire me out of their own pocket and small business owners looking for support in running their business.
Corey: Okay. So, in your experience as a coach, how important is a match between a coach and a client in your experience?
Executive Coach Terry Hildebrandt Well, rapport between a client and a coach is critical. The client needs to be able to trust and relate to the coach’s experience and style. My broad work background as both a leader in corporate America and as a small business owner enabled me to relate to the experiences of both men and women in a variety of settings. I’ve worked with clients in a number of industries including hi-tech, manufacturing, banking, insurance, real estate, nursing, non-profit management, and government. I hold on a graduate degree on science and engineering and advanced graduate degrees in organizational development and human development, which enabled me to relate to a broad range of clients and their goals.
Corey: That’s great. What a great background. So, could you share with me a success story please?
Executive Coach Terry Hildebrandt Sure. I’ll provide one example from small business clients and two from the corporate world.
Executive Coach Terry Hildebrandt I’m currently working with a small business owner of a manufacturing company who has about 12 employees. He is looking to grow his business and has engaged me as a coach to help him work through a number of leadership challenges. He wants to put employees a more [inaudible 03:32] staff and ensure they are compensated and rewarded appropriately. We also have explored his own personal long term goals for spending more time with his family of four children and planning for his retirement. I worked with this client to brainstorm solutions and hold him accountable for reaching his goals through regular check and meetings. The second story is from a manager within Fortune Fifty company who wanted to improve her leadership skills in facilitating meetings. I observed this employee facilitating a real meeting at her work place and then provided feedback on my observation and I introduced her to a new model for facilitating and meeting design that enables her to take her facilitation to a new level. The third example is from an individual who was also a corporate employee who wanted to transition into nursing. We spent a few months exploring this individual’s long term goals and interests. We then developed the plan for her to transition out of her corporate job into the field of nursing. She did leave her corporate job and enrolled in a formal nurse education program. The coaching process built her confidence and supported her in developing a robust plan to be successful.
Corey: That’s great. Wow. Very diverse set of clients but it sounds that you did a great work. Thank you so much for being here with us Terry. I appreciate it.
Executive Coach Terry Hildebrandt Thank you.
About Executive Coach Terry Hildebrandt
Terry Hildebrandt is a catalyst for individuals and organizations to realize their full potential by providing facilitation, coaching, and organizational consulting. He equips you with the self-awareness, tools, and processes to reach your goals!
Terry has over 14 years of coaching experience. He has dedicated a large portion of his career to executive coaching and organization development. He has worked with companies and organizations in multiple industries including high tech, manufacturing, professional services, insurance, energy, government, schools, and nonprofit. He works primarily with mid-level and senior executives including members of the executive committee, board chairs, chief executive officers, vice presidents, directors, and selected promising leaders.
He has worked with the leaders of global business units and their teams to design and implement organizational change initiatives resulting in increased revenue, greater market share, improved executive team effectiveness, and alignment of organizational culture with new business strategies. Terry is an expert in the principles of evidence based coaching, which involves using the best existing theoretical and researched knowledge, in combination with his personal coaching skills and knowledge of the client, to develop and deliver an effective coaching engagement.
Interview with Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy
Corey: Hi! My name is Corey Quinn and I am the founder of MyCoachMatch.com. We are a website that matches coaches with clients based on fit. I am here with John Duffy. He is a psychologist. He is a life coach and he is also the author of “The Available Parent”. Welcome John.
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: Thank you Corey. Thanks for having me man.
Corey: Definitely. Could you share with us why you became a coach?
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: Yeah. I’ve been a psychologist for about 12-13 years now, and about 5 years ago, my wife, Julie, decided to go into coach training and launch a coaching business, and as she went through the training, she came to me every single time after the training and said, “You need to do this.This is a great thing. It’s a great thing for your personal or self growth. I think it might be good for your practice. I really want you to do it.” Eventually, she warmed me down to be honest, and I thought, okay, I’ll try it, and I am so grateful to her that I did because it changed me in a lot of ways. It changed the way I practice for sure and it was like an incredibly enriching experience for me personally as well.
Corey: That’s great. Can you share with us when should someone consider working with you as a coach and psychologist?
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: Yeah. I work with a lot of teenagers. My book is called, “The Available Parent: Radical Optimism for Raising Teens and Tweens,” so I found that my – if I have a niche, it’s I work with teenagers, tweenage kids like 10-13 and their parents, and I do a lot of parent’s coaching as well, kind of helping them through the tough times with their kids as they make that transition to those tricky teen years. So ideally, that’s the kind of client I work with. But really, I find that I specialize in working with relationships, broadly speaking. So, I work with that relationship, I work with you know, adult parent-child relationships. I work with intimate relationships, even work-based relationships.
Corey: And I’m curious, how has your background in psychology been able to help you with your coaching practice?
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: Well, you know, when you go to grad school in psych, you have this broad base of knowledge that you learned about just you know, how the mind works, and that has been very, very helpful in my coaching practice, and there is you know, just like as we have been trained to be coaches, we learn these mirad techniques for any given difficulty. I feel like my toolbox is just that much bigger having gone to grad school in psychology.
Corey: Great. Could you share with us a success story?
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: Yeah. I had worked with a young man. This is a couple of years ago, and to be honest with you Corey, when I first started working with this guy, I think he was 19, maybe 20 at that time, and I decided in my mind and shame on me to be honest that, “Oh this guy is kind of limited in what he is going to be able to do. He does not seem to have a lot of ‘oooomf!’ There doesn’t seem to be a lot of fire in him” And so I thought, well we can get him through college. That would be great. You know, so that’s going to be our goal. I kind of decided that instead of collaborating with him on that. Well, he proved me so wrong. He had a classmate who died of leukemia during the time when I was working with him, and he came in one day shortly thereafter and said, “You know, I have to do this final project for school. I’m going to put together this great big event, and I’m going to bring bands in it. I’m going to bring sitting in. I’m going to make $10,000 to support juvenile diabetes resarch.” And I thought, Wow! That doesn’t sound like you. I do not know if you can pull that off, but I decided, I’m going to go with my client’s gut, not mind and I’m going to support him on this and long behold, 6 months later, there was an enormous event. He raised far more than he thought he would, and he is a pretty successful fundraiser now. So, I supposed if I learned anything from that, it’s that follow your client’s intuition and don’t presume that anybody is really limited in their capacity to do anything.
Corey: And finally, could you share with us in your experience as a psychologist and a life coach, the importance of a match between a coach and a client?
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: You know, I actually don’t want to underestimate the importance of a match between a coach and client. It is one of the most important things. So you know, more so to my thinking technique, or specific background, years of experience. If you find somebody that you connect with, you are going to do a good work. I really believe that and if you feel like, well this person has years of experience and they work with people my age, my gender, I don’t connect to them the whole lot, I don’t think that is going to work very well. In my experience, that does not work.
Corey: Great. Thank you so much John for your time today.
Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy: My pleasure Corey. Thanks for having me.
About Psychologist and Life Coach Dr. John Duffy:
Dr. John Duffy is a highly sought-after clinical psychologist, certified life coach, parenting expert, and proud parent. He has been working with teens, tweens, and their families for more than fifteen years. He has provided the critical intervention and support needed to help hundreds of families find their footing.
He has served as a contributing parenting expert for a number of media outlets. These include The Huffington Post, AOL Health, AOL Parent Dish, Notre Dame magazine, Root & Sprout, bettyconfidential.com, makeitbetter.net, examiner.com, and theteendoc.com. He has also served as a parenting and relationship expert on a number of radio programs, including the nationally-syndicated Mr. Dad program with best-selling author Armin Brott, and The Lite Show on WNTD in Chicago. Dr. Duffy has also contributed to a number of books, including Living Life as a Thank You (Viva Editions) by Mary Beth Sammons and Nina Lesowitz. Details and article excerpts can be found on this web site. He blogs on availability on the website and communicates regularly through his fan page on Facebook and Twitter.